How Do I Know God Loves Me If I Am Suffering So Much?

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How do I know God loves me when I keep suffering and the pain never seems to stop?

“For great is Your love, higher than the heavens; Your faithfulness reaches to the skies.” Psalm 108:4

Last year my son and I were cuddled up on the bed having one of those rare quiet moments where he just wanted personal attention and was holding still long enough for me to talk with him.

I told him, “Do you know how much Mommy loves you?”
“How much?” he asked.
“I love you as high as the sky and as deep as the ocean” I told him.
“I love you. . .” he started to say, trying to think of something to compare it with. “. . .as deep as the toilet!”

[Ah. . .  thanks. . . I think!]

Well, maybe he was trying to think of a body of water like I had mentioned the ocean.

We ARE loved. “But how do I know God loves me,” we ask ourselves.

As soon as Valentine’s Day has passed all the stores remove the decorations of hearts and signs of affection and throw up big green clovers and little men dressed in tights. How fickle this can also represent our love. We remember those we love on the big holidays, we try to write “Happy Birthday” on friend’s Facebook walls, and we occasionally pick up the phone and hang up saying, “love you.”

But we don’t always feel loved ourselves. Does anyone remember us? Does anyone really see us? How do I know God loves me?

Living with an illness can be isolating and lonely. Even today as I prepare all of my paperwork for a new doctor, trying to explain the timeline of 18 years with rheumatoid arthritis, I look at my organized preparations and think, “Is this really my life?” I mention my marriage and the adoption of my child. The rest of my notes revolve around surgeries, infections, medication changes, and flares.

But God loves us. We look at our bottles of pills all lined up and we think, “How? If this is how He chooses to love me, do I really want to trust this God? I this is how He allows those He loves to suffer, why would I believe in Him? How do I know God loves me for sure?”

Because He loves you. He chose you. He even chose this path for you. God loves you deeper than you can ever imagine.

If you were the responsible child in your family growing up, you may remember how there were even greater expectations put on your shoulders. Perhaps more was even expected of you. It didn’t seem fair. If you were the child who was not quite as responsible, it may have taken you a bit longer in life to discover what you wanted to be when you grew up, what your passions were, etc. Perhaps because you were not forced to go through challenges as frequently, it took a bit longer to find yourself.

God chooses those of us with illness to bear seasons of suffering because He loves us and knows that we can be more of a comfort to those who are suffering–who have no hope– while we are living with illness. As we stand in the muck of life, still explaining how we rely on our Father’s guidance and love each day to endure our illness, people will listen. If we did not suffer, if life was easy, the cash overflowed, we never suffered, would those who were hurting seek us out for advice? Not likely.

I don’t understand it all and I don’t pretend to. I don’t even strive to fully comprehend it all, because even the Bible tells me it’s impossible for me to fully get it. Psalm 108:4 tell me, however, that God’s love is great, higher than the heavens, and that His faithfulness reaches to the skies. That is the best way the author of the Psalms could even begin to explain it in human terms.

It’s like God looks down at us and says, “I love you as deep as the ocean” and we look back and respond, “And I love you as deep as the toilet.” His love is beyond our comprehension.  Ecclesiastes 8:17 says, “Then I saw all that God has done. No one can comprehend what goes on under the sun. Despite all his efforts to search it out, man cannot discover its meaning. Even if a wise man claims he knows, he cannot really comprehend it.”

But our inability to fully understand it does not lessen the impact it can have on our life. it doesn’t change God’s love. It only assures us it is worth fully grasping onto and never letting go.

About the Author:
Lisa Copen is the founder of Rest Ministries and has lived with rheumatoid arthritis for 18 years. She is the author of Mosaic Moments: Devotionals for the Chronically Ill.

 How Do I Know God Loves Me If I Am Suffering So Much?
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  1. Lisa, I remember singing Jesus Loves Me as a child. It always brought me such comfort. Living through a chronic illness, it means even more to me now! But for that love, I would be a very different person. It is by His love that I am filled with the grace I need to press on each day. And I’m grateful for that.

  2. I couldn’t help thinking of the scene when Jesus reinstates Peter. He had told Peter that he would deny him three times, and when it came true, Peter wept. So on the beach that day, the risen Jesus asks Peter, “Do you love Me more than these?” Jesus used a BIG word for “love”, and “more than these” echoed Peter’s boast that he loved Him more than any other and would never deny Him. Of course, Peter answered “I love you”, but with a small word for “love”. So Jesus asked him, “Do you love Me?”, again using the big “love”. Peter answered “I love you”, with the small word. The third time Jesus asked, He used the same word Peter had used – “Do you love Me?” with the small word. That’s why it says Peter was distressed/sad when Jesus asked the third time… do you even “love” Me? He knows we “love” Him. Most of the time, we use that small “love” that Peter – humbled – used. But He uses a great big LOVE word when He says His LOVE is all encompassing for us. Thank God it is.

  3. Kim Del Bravo says:

    Thanks Lisa, another chocolate out of the box!
    Kim

  4. I WANT TO TESTIFY THAT JESUS ​​IS LORD OF LIFE, THERE IS NO GOD EXCEPT JESUS​​. I HAVE SAVED THE WORLD FROM THE DEAD, I rescued FROM RAT POISON THAT I TAKE FOR MY SINS frustrated with DISHONOUR THAT I HAVE TO DO. JESUS ​​IS A GOOD FATHER. SUBMIT YOUR LIFE AND BELIEVE HIM, HE WILL help you! I witness.

  5. You don’t have a clue about suffering and sacrifice. I have a chronic illness, lost 4 children and a husband, which the 2nd wife took all my court awarded earnings, I recently lost my son. after 24 years raising a special needs kid. My prayers didn’t work–I am on my own. Maybe God works for you– he told me “I’m on my own!~” Life doesn’t get any better than this!! By the way at my young age I have had over 200 mild heart attacks– 4 major heart attacks and heart surgeery– then went bankrupt had to quirt medical school because of finances then my father had cancer and chemo AGAin, then my mother was injuried and I have been taking care of them, almost lost my house and i am down to 90 lbs. Volunteer at a soup kitchen coz they offer left overs when they have them–but doing good enough to feed my daughter and keep her in private school–can’t get job because I am over train–over educated–go pray for someone else. If God wants me– he must want me dead.

  6. Margaret, I am so very sorry the suffering you have experienced and I don’t ever pretend to think I have had a difficult life and fully understand suffering. I don’t know why God has allowed you to go through all that you have. but I also choose to share what part of my sufferings I share online publicly.

    Just because people write things online, such as I do, does not mean this is the extent of difficulties they have gone through. I believe, through it all, life is hard, but God is still good.

    And I look forward to my future in heaven where there will be no suffering. If I did not have this hope, I don’t know how I would get through this life on earth.

    I always assume that each person is suffering. when someone is late for a get together, when someone speeds past me and swerves in front of me almost causing an accident, when someone like yourself shares your heart and reveals the pain they are in–I always assume there is much more to their story… And most of it is painful.

    Life has been far from even being “fair” to you and I don’t understand this, but know that I will send up a prayer for you today–even if you believe it will not do any good. And I thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable and share the hurts in your life. When we bottle them up and put on a happy face, it can cause us to even experience more pain–since everyone assumes we are just fine. Thank you for your honesty.

  7. You know God loves you because you are freaking suffering..
    Don’t you know.. when you suffer is when you seriously improve and learn…
    Those who don’t suffer, get everything easy.. how they learn???
    I’m not quoting you from some bible as other christians do.. I’m so sick of how so many christians quote verses all the time.. we all need humans talking to us.. not a book talking to us.. nor a ‘standard format’ regulated answer..
    Just look at your life itself.. life as we know it.. what we want most doesn’t come easy.. what we don’t really bother about seems to come easy.. so what we want most is what we need to improve and learn most.. that’s why we suffer..
    It ain’t material gains that God really bothers us to have.. it’s wisdom, spirituality.. and all these comes from life experience.. that’s when you know God do love you..

  8. Jerry Wells says:

    I am 57 years old. My mother died when I was three. My father was an alcoholic. I had three different step mothers by the time I was 15 years old. I was sexually molested when I was 8 by a step sister. All I ever wanted when I was growing up was to have a good family.

    I married when I was 22. My wife and I had eight children. We raised our children to follow Jesus. Several of them have rejected what we taught them. My wife died from ovarian cancer five years ago. My dream for my family has been shattered. The grief has been so painful. I have never had to suffer yet with a chronic illness. I have great compassion for those who do. But I have had to suffer from chronic emotional pain.

    It is so hard to believe that God loves you when all your dreams are shattered and you suffer from chronic emotional pain.

    This morning I will share the love of God with about 200 people that will gather to hear me teach God’s Word. I am a Pastor and have been one at the same church for over 28 years. The basis for my trust in God is not what He has done for me lately. The basis for my trust is what He did to save me from my sin. Understanding what we deserve because of our sin and understanding what Jesus did for us on the cross to save us from our sin is the reason anyone who suffers should believe that God loves them. His grace is amazing! He did not give us what we deserve. He has prepared a place for us with Him where there will be no more suffering. These truths are the anchor of our faith in the midst of the storms of life.

  9. God loves you no matter what. You are special, he loves you so much and he doesn’t want to let go of you.
    You are so precious to him and he would never sell you to anyone. God is a loving, caring, great, graceful God. HE LOVES SO MUCH!

  10. So I am struggling with this concept. There has been a lot of pain, a lot of abuse, a lot of betrayal, a lot of lies told about me in my life. It seems that when someone wants to look for a victim, they find me. From my father who beat me w/o mercy to my brother who molested me for 6 years to the school guidance counselor who thought that was funny to a minister who invited me to come talk to him when 6 people in my life died in 8 weeks and then locked me in (old skeleton style lock) and molested me and then said I was psychiatrically unstable and told all his church staff to have nothing to do with me and my then-husband I fantasized “it” to a stalker I didn’t even know when he started stalking me to the supervisor who believed the stalker’s version of our “relationship” after the stalker got a job where I worked and proceeded to harass me without mercy and the supervisor helped him retaliate with a vengeance for filing complaints against him to a concomitant identity theft I can’t help but believe came from the same source which completely destroyed my credit to oh, my God, the list goes on and on and on without end. I have reached the point of not even believing God loves me, He has allowed so much trauma to blindside me in my life. So people tell me God does love me and I need to open my heart back up to Him, but I can’t even find a window or a door any more.

  11. Heavenly Father, You are merciful, gracious and loving. Your compassion never fails. I pray now for my Brothers and Sister and myself who seek understanding about the hurts and pains we have and are enduring. Touch our hearts. Allow your faithful ones to cross our paths to share your loving-kindness and goodness. If we cannot find a window or door for You to walk through into our hearts, create one and enter in. If we can no longer cry out to you, Send someone who will stand for us and cry out. Today Precious Lord, even today give us Your peace. Remind us that there is a place on Your breast for us to rest our heads upon. Let us know that you have not forgotten us and no matter what we are going through, let us remember that we are Your children and You really do love us. Father, we know you have kept us because we are all still here… although at times we may wish we were not. You have made us special and unique and you have chosen us for this task. With your help, You will give us strength to endure. Let us turn aside from our pains for one moment to pray for others who are going through as well. Now with all the breath, strength and courage that I can muster, I PRAISE YOU LORD!!! Amen.

  12. ….Let us remember that You have a plan for all this and when it is all said and done, we will give You all the glory and honor so that Your Kingdom will be glorified in us.

    Fall Into You by David Hodges (featuring Amy Lee)

    It seems so far, that I have gone down this road
    Only to find that it ends
    Looking back there is one thing that I know
    I can’t make it all alone again
    Cause I’m too weak to stand on my own
    When all I need is you

    So lead me, guide me, hold me, hide me in love
    With all that you are, and all that you do
    Hear me, take me, mold me, break me oh God.
    Just fill all of me. As I fall into you.

    Just catch me as I fall
    All this time, I have felt so alone
    Losing myself in my despair
    What loving arms, you were waiting for me to let go
    Of every step you were there
    Cause I’m too weak, to stand on my own
    When all I need, is you

  13. GOD blessed us all we have all have things we don’t want but we still live the life god gave us know matter what we choose to think god blessed us all we all have heart ach but god helps us th rough.I hope every one knows how much they are loved by god the devine I am blessed and I pray you are too

  14. @ Jerry,
    I wept when I read your post. That you could still believe in God and Jesus throughout the turmoil in your life. That you could put your faith and trust into something that seems to elude the majority of human kind. I don’t know why we are to suffer in this life. I think it is a test of some kind, so we may learn from it and comfort and love others. Love seems to be the bond between ourselves as a human race and also, the bond between God and ourselves. It also to me seems to the the bond in everything we do. We all have stories of suffering I think. The one thing that really stands out to me is how much God loves us. Sometimes I wonder, but in the end, I know he does. He loves us so much, he stepped out of eternity into time in the only way possible, which was through his only son, Jesus Christ. He did this so he could experience time and what it was like to be alive and bound by time and be tempted by the evil that exists. Yes, God created everything, although the best theologians can’t answer how, why or when. Love is the key. If you realize that God loves you and you love him and show love to others, then you will have a place to go, when you pass over to the other world.

    Mark

  15. praise the lord !!!
    im was 22 wen i got married from an affair. within 5 months it came to a divorce.i was suffering like in a hell.i tried to suicide i got failed.that man was killing me phisically and mentally, tried to sell me for his friends.god is great now he relived me by getting me the divorce after soo many struggles.
    god is great. love him have faith.he calls to all of us just listen.i knw it very well.

    shelo

  16. I read many of the previous posts about suffering, and they wonder why. The answer is found in Ecc 1:13, it is the experience of evil in our lives that creates humility, also see 3:10, same exact words.

    Satan & his rebellious angelic followers are the least humble of all of God’s creation & often the source of our afflictions, though not all of it. We suffer to learn the humility that Satan & the rebellious angels spoken of in the book of Jude would not learn because they are spirit beings incapable of pain, however we who are now human will one day be elevated to the level of Christ to be their judges.

    To be judges of the rebellious angels we must first qualify for that position, we qualify by suffering as Christ did when he went to the Roman torture stake, feeling the pain he felt. Not all of us will undergo the same quantity & type of pain, but it all counts, none will be forgotten & because of it we will reap the greatest responsibilities in Christ’s Kingdom which will never end.

    Do your best to praise him even if you can find only a small way of doing it & even if it is not deeply heartfelt, our Brother & our Father in heaven know all about it, and they do understand why in our pain we cannot feel thankful toward Him who created us.

    I don’t like my present pain either, I hate it, I tell God about it everyday, but by the day’s end I usually find a way to sit down with my guitar and sing a song like: “When I Survey the Wondrous Cross”. It’s hard to have the desire to thank & praise God for the humility we’re learning, but it’s a necessary step God requires of the entirety of the human race. After this life is over & done & we’ve come into Christ’s Kingdom, we’ll better understand why God made us the flesh & blood humans he did & then our hearts will overflow with praise to our Redeemer for what we learned from being humans so subjected to the pain we suffered..

  17. Listen to Kathryn sing this song : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhvXOIVsRv4

  18. Then listen to this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3p8THfJihuc

    I sit down almost nightly with my guitar & do these two songs, it does give me encouragement that I can sleep better at night.

  19. God may love us, but does it really matter? Bad things happen to us whether God loves us or not. I love God and what Jesus did for me, but I hate the way He does things. I hate that I was not asked to live this life, I was thrust into it; we all were. And now if we don’t like it we’re sinners for not liking it? If this life is supposed to be a gift, then I wish I was dead; this life is a curse. I hate this life that You’ve given me Lord, and I will never be silent about it, so if You don’t want to listen to anymore of this, You’d better shut me up now.

  20. am I forsaken it shure seems like it says:

    I have had constant back pain for over 10years. Sometimes I feel foresaken.Eventho I tell god everyday how much I love & appreciate this life he gave us.but yet still I’m in constant pain the kids r rude the bills pile ip our viecle brakes down .I take one step forward but end up four steps back why does it feel like I am not loved I just don’t belong. And I no ive sinned in my life but I have begged for forgiveness but never get forgiven

  21. how will know god love when noting works for me

  22. godslove says:

    If someone getting desired fruits of his/her sinful actions, God is angry with him/her.
    If someone getting punished for his/her sinful actions, God is happy with him/her.
    If someone getting rewards for his righteousness, God is very-very happy with him/her.
    If someone not getting rewards for his righteousness and getting troubles even doing truthful actions, God is deeply satisfied with him/her, AND is preparing him/her for bigger responsibilty. And the cycle goes ON ….

  23. God loves you no mater what god gave his tuffet battles to his strongest solders

  24. HOW CAN WE p. 7COPE WITH SUFFERING?

    p. 6“Throw all your anxiety upon [God].” (1 Peter 5:7) Feelings of confusion, anger, and abandonment are only natural when we endure suffering or see someone we love suffer. Still, be assured that Jehovah understands our feelings. (Exodus 3:7; Isaiah 63:9) Like faithful men of old, we can open our heart to him and express our doubts and anxieties. (Exodus 5:22; Job 10:1-3; Jeremiah 14:19; Habakkuk 1:13) He may not miraculously remove our trials, but in response to our heartfelt prayers, he can grant us the wisdom and strength to deal with them.—James 1:5, 6.

    p. 7“Do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you.” (1 Peter 4:12, New International Version) Here Peter is speaking of persecution, but his words apply equally well to any suffering a believer may endure. Humans suffer privation, sickness, and loss. The Bible says that “time and unforeseen occurrence” befall everyone. (Ecclesiastes 9:11) Such things are part of the human condition at present. Realizing this will help us to deal with suffering and misfortune when it occurs. (1 Peter 5:9) Most of all, recalling the assurance that “the eyes of Jehovah are toward the righteous ones, and his ears are toward their cry for help” will especially be a source of comfort.—Psalm 34:15; Proverbs 15:3; 1 Peter 3:12.

    “Rejoice in the hope.” (Romans 12:12) Instead of dwelling on lost happiness, we can meditate on God’s promise to end all suffering. (Ecclesiastes 7:10) This well-founded hope will protect us as a helmet protects the head. Hope cushions the blows in life and helps to ensure that they do not prove fatal to our mental, emotional, or spiritual health.—1 Thessalonians 5:8.

  25. started to get teary-eyed reading your work. thank you. thanks for the reminder. this was what i needed..

  26. I never feel well, I am always tired, run down, sick, and I have a problem with alcohol that leaves me barely able to function , I have no money, only one real friend in the world, and if it wasn’t for my family helping me, I would probably be homeless one day, But I thank God that I do not have the problems some people do, no matter how hard my life may seem, I still have my family, and a roof over my head, and no serous illness that cannot be healed by sorting my life out, I still have a chance to fix my life, and I am extremely grateful for that.

    I cannot imagine the pain involved with losing your parents, children, wife, husband , or being told you have months to live because of something like cancer. I know people who have been struck down with such things and died very quickly, and I am forever grateful that I have not been tested in this way.

    We need to be grateful for the good in our lives, even if it’s only something very small, we must see the good, or all is lost. We are allowed to be tested , tempted, some people are tested a lot more than others, but God tells us we are never allowed to be tested or tempted to the point where we lose the ability to believe in God. We cannot begin to understand why some people have good lives, and some good people have nothing but tragedy in their lives.

    And I would not even begin to try and understand the suffering some people go through, all I can say is do not give up believing in Jesus, as long as we remember that he died a horrible death on the cross for us because he loves us for all eternity, no matter what happens, that is all that matters, we must always remember Jesus dying on the cross. His suffering was more than any human has ever had to endure, and he did it for us, we must try to stay strong and put our trust in him.

  27. Pstr JimR says:

    Lisa, thanks for your testimony witness of Gods Grace. I was diagnosed Rheumatoid Arthritis-Ankylosing Spondilitus in 1991. I have tried almost all of the available meds since, Tens Unit, shots in the spinal column to kill the nerves and nothing works. I use fentanyl patch and when pain goes over the top, I take vicodin 10/600. I start everyday with time in prayer and ask God to walk wiith me this day only. The next day I start all over again. God has blessed me to Pastor 3 churches. I have done this for 6 years, and I still feel blessed every day. I know what my Lord did for me. I know I could not have taken what he took for me in the whipping, scourging, mocking, crown of thorns, walking up the hill to Golgotha, and being hung on that cross. If theworld had to depend on me we would all be in trouble. Praise God He rose again, and he Lives.
    Jim

  28. Jim, it is always wonderful to hear how God has worked though one’s illness and pain. I am sure as a pastor with a chronic illness you were even more credible to most of your church since they knew you also understand suffering. Thanks for being in touch!

  29. Some of the comments are heartbreaking. I sometimes question Gods love i mean i witnessed abuse growing up battling all kinds of issues others dont violence, addictions heartbreak failed relationships terrible family relationships racism getting kicked out of church dieseae childlessness and possibly jail. So i mean i have seen a couple of good days but mostly bad. Sometimes i just want to quit. Sometimes i trully hate God bc it feels like He wants get me let alone love me. But even if this is how i feel some of this is my fault. Is it fair i grew up in abuse no, am i predisposed to some sins yes. Is it right people reject me no but honestly theres little i can do about my outward circumstances but plenty about my attitude. So life sucks it does..sometimes it really sucks it doesnt mean God doesnt love me those sometimes THATS hard to believe. But i guess by faith i believe and remember this is not my home.

  30. Clarese says:

    God loves you. I’m going through joblessnes, possible homelessness, illness, and taking care of a twin sibling who has severe mental illness. Oh and Im single, never married, and no children (by choice because I knew at age 12 when my mom was murdered, that life was going to deal heavy blows). I thank God for giving me a level head…common sense and smarts. Ive never abused drugs or alcohol. I never “chose” abusive relationships with men (potential friends or family). God gave me a brain!! AND i used it ever since I was orphaned at age 12! We sometimes ‘make our own hell’ with bad choices. Choose the wrong people to ‘be with’, guess what happens? Abuse drugs and/or alcohol? Guess what happens? Now everything is not our fault. Accepting that we live in a fallen world and bad things will happen to good well meaning people, will get you through these trials. ALSO, acknowledging when you’ve caused your own trials will help put things in real perspective. God is always here. Choose Him always because He has chosen you.

  31. The Very Truth says:

    all that i ever wanted from God was for him to bless me to meet a good woman to share my life with instead of being alone all the time, and since women are a lot nastier these days which many of them do think that they are God’s gift to men, certainly makes it much more difficult meeting a decent one today.

  32. this is for the very truth: i recently felt the same way you did..i had given up all hopes of ever meeting anyone decent..and i am a new widow…but for some reason…i feel as if the lord sent me a man that is so wonderful and kind…in a million and one years i could never have conceived that this could happen to me..i was so giving up on anyone ever coming into my life….and then it happened and we met…and all i can tell you is i wish i would have met this man when i was a kid…and we could have been boyfriend and girlfriend then…and at this age i feel that way with him….so my advise is to never give up hope..cause hope is waiting for you right around the corner…there will be a great woman for you…i met him online and we have been talking for 9 months and haven’t even met yet….that is how respectful he is…there are nice people out there..so don’t give up and just think that noone is out there…its not true…

  33. The Very Truth says:

    To June, be very careful who you meet on line which is very scarey today. i am afraid to try on line dating after hearing so many horror stories about them, and today we have to be very careful since we are living in a different time now. i was married myself at one time for almost 15 years before she cheated on me which i was a very caring and loving husband that was very much committed to her as well. going out all over again is very hard since i am in my late fifties, and to deal with this mess all over again. but i will just go out and hope for the best. thank you very much for your support, and good luck to you too.

  34. @theVeryTruth: you put out a ‘bad vibe’ with your comment that “women have gotten nastier.” You may lack the insight to find out why women are distant and why they are distant from you. In today’s world, women are treated like sex objects and not like human beings with the same intellect as men. So our guard is up when men approach us. In a world of porn, internet porn, more crimes against women (than ever before) you have to be a bit sensitive to why women have their guard up and NOT TAKE IT PERSONAL and NOT BLAME GOD. Always look at yourself to see how you may ‘come off’ as offensive, threatening, too friendly and in your face, or whatever. When it’s right it’s right but get your attitude about us ‘fixed’ because you will not have a good relationship with a woman if you enter a friendship with a woman with such low opinions of us. @JUNE: Hi. God bless you and I read your story and you sound so lovely. Howeve, I need to say: pretty please be careful with the internet dating/romance/friendship thing. If you’ve chatted with him for almost ONE year and he hasn’t made an effort to visit with you, that could be a red flag. If he asks for money….or you find yourself offering him money…red flag. I have used Match.com and I meet the guy for coffee at Starbucks as a first date and then we go to dinner if we like each other. My rule for internet dating is that we have to meet within a 3 months time or it’s not going to happen. I personally wouldn’t date someone from out of state unless he was able to visit me (on his own dime) and I was able to visit him (on my own dime)…and I’m broke (lol). Anyway…you have these internet men (or Catfish/MTV tv show term) who find out you’re a widow or divorcee and they start to see dollar signs. Please make sure this is not happening to you.

  35. Seeing stuff like this makes me so sad… Is life going to be one big trial???? Do we get no plans of hope or happiness? Im afraid to even ask God for anything else, Im about to rip up my journal and unbargain with God and pretend he didnt hear what I wanted or my hearts desires.

  36. I think that there is a great misunderstanding of God’s provision – which is created by all the hype made by numerous evangelists mostly based on one bible verse/text. Like… God will replace what the locusts have eaten or the robbing God verse from the old testament somewhere, when they need you to [pay tithe – which incidentally is not new testamentary – or the verse that says that what so ever you ask the Father in My name you shall have – etc etc – i can go on and on about this, – but here is the reality of the bibles message – ignoring the many fake promises which keep you in hope but 99.99% don’t become a reality in the lives of God’s chosen people, Christians. Many people have many excuses ready to protect biblical views when questioned on the reason for the bibles modern faith and wealth teachings being none performing garbage.
    1. Life abundant as promised by God is the life hereafter, look around you and see the evidence – trillions of poor – very poor Christian – Jesus followers. – no abundance whatsoever!
    2. God has given you all you need in this life – the better you use it the better you will do in life.

    It is as simple as that.

    The hype is only to keep churches full – yes there are some, but very few miracles, but the general christian does not get any special treatment even if he is the child of the wealthiest and most loving father in existence. So get on with life and stop kidding yourself that life abundand is for this world or those who pray.
    All the hype about Gods love is for hereafter – as for now you are on your own in the devils domain – as long as you believe in the death of Christ on the cross for your sins – you will get life abundant as promised – but you have to wait till you die to get rid of pain and illness, and experience some of the family wealth.

    The last point I must make is the Hope we have We all pray in the hope of an answer in our life, rather sooner than later… OK the inevitable cliche about gods time is not our time will be the reason for non answered prayers if questioned, or any of the other usual cliches you get because no one really knows why you are not answered- we all live in hope from day to day – every morning waking up hoping that today is the day that my life will improve – some with prayer, some without, only to go to bed tonight without an answer – tomorrow I wake up and hope again that today is the day, and so life goes on until we die – but hope has kept us going – without hope half the world will suffer from depression and the illnesses this dreaded state of mind accompanies… so is Gods power not strong enough to overcome the continuous disillusionment of unanswered prayers – there will be many answers, but non I have not heard before – so we pray daily because it gives hope – and hope gives life and live gives a new day for more prayer and more hope fired by more evangelists and so we create perpetual motion.

  37. The Very Truth says:

    To Wendy Cat, i really don’t expect a woman to curse at me when i am trying to start a normal conversation with her. Don’t you think? I sure wouldn’t curse at a woman that came over to me to start a conversation with me, so why in the world should i be cursed at when i didn’t do nothing wrong for her to act that way towards me? In fact, i know other men that had this happened to them as well. Which goes to show you how women have certainly changed for the worst over the years. There are many of us men that are still single after a divorce that wasn’t our fault to begin with, and we’re hoping to find a good woman for us this time around.

  38. I want god to come back and my life. I feel like God turn it back on me. I don’t know what to do.

  39. To the suffering and mentally searching people of god I’d like to say the following….One has to remember that the devil walks around this domain in which you live as is likened unto a roaring lion. We live in his domain. We are free from his attacks -here by faith in Jesus and in eternity because Jesus died on the cross to make us blameless before the ultimate judge, the Father in heaven. We will stand before him white as snow – only because of the grace of God who sent his son to atone for our sins which have by His death been removed as from us as far as the East is from the West.
    The major disillusions which surround us in this world are because we believe wrongly – The bible does not promise us a land of cream and honey on this earth – it does say that we will have troubles here, and many are of our own making…believing all that we hear and see – but not realizing and believing that much of it is from the devil – if we would remind ourselves of this and immediately call on the name of Jesus, simply by saying something like Lord Jesus protect me from – this that or the next thing, (the devil flees when he hears the name Jesus – I have witnessed this) AND BELIEVE than He will gladden your mind , many mental and emotional detrimental states of mind will not linger and your general health will be better, as also will your zest for life improve. You will begin to experience inner peace being satisfied that God is on your side… he that is in you is greater than he (the devil) that is in this world.
    Lastly please understand that every decision has a consequence – if someone is nasty to you and you take exception to this it will play on your mind, and it will spoil your day – not the person who did the scolding – God (Jesus followers) utter no ugliness to anyone, so what you have just heard was a momentary (or permanent) devils possession utterance. Remember that the devil is a spirit and can only hurt you by being in a body – he can not touch you in his spirit form – HE HAS TO ENTER A BODY – he does this by entering those willing to receive him and than uses these people whom he has entered to be ugly and nasty to you and me in the hope that we will eventually say – where is the love of God that all this hype is about …. that is exactly what he wants for you to begin moving away from God.
    God loves you, but unfortunately we live in the devils domain he is the prince of this world and for this we have Adam and Eve to thank…. she led him into temptation, and if you are honest – today in this world the greatest temptation in many circumstances of unhappiness in this world remains the women walking around in miniskirts and with a good size cleavage beautifully made up to be attractive etc etc – men are tempted and do things to impress them which may often lead to sin. (Ladies no insult here – you know if you belong to this brigade) Men steal money to buy these women presents – they murder husbands to get to these women… I agree my eyes never miss a beautiful girl can’t help seeing what is right before my eyes, and ones mind strays… for sure, but than think about Jesus who if you would like, will sen you someone equally beautiful externally and also glowing with love on the inside,- but – yes, the mind wonders and the trouble starts much to the pleasure of the devil. God has given you all you need – use it to your own good – the better you use it the better your life will be both emotionally and financially – be honest and make sure people like you for they see love in you… you’ll be surprised the very short time it takes to have clusters of new and beautiful friends – they are many in this world.

  40. I have been praying everyday to bring up my grades up. All A’s. One day i see the grades fall down and i began to suffer alot. It s hard for me to trust in god’s faith

  41. Many people have great difficulty in accepting the fact that our prayers are not heard – at the age of 70 i lost all my possessions having placed my trust in my accountant – who within one year cost me a rich mans income – my business – my stud farm – my private 45ft sailing yacht, 2 brand new Mercedez Benz S class vehicles and all else I had – It has been a hard road – I now stay with my sister who is very good to me, my I have no independence left as a get only a states pension which does not even ay my medicines and auxiliaries- I paid all people as I could and retained my clothe and my name, knowing that 1 day i would need my name to make a come back. The holy spirit is within me prompting me to find a niche in the market into which i can sell things i can make. My business is about to open and i am now 77. I would like to explain a vision, or a dream I had some considerable number of years back. – I too wondered if God loves me why he allows me to suffer so much – I am 77 and am going for yet another back operation tomorrow, but God has directed me to a good surgeon who will make me walk again without constant pain.
    So the dream/vision was that I saw the whole world covered with a type of latex cloud, its was a bit like
    modern day silicone which dries but remains flexible – As i prayed I saw this arrow bounce back from this latex layer showing me my prayer had not penetrated – i prayed and prayed – in my dream/vision, and every time a prayer/arrow hit this latex cloud it would fall to the ground till eventually my prayers/arrows had worn a hole in the latex and i saw may prayer/arrow go right through the latex cloud – This is how God showed me that i must pray continuously as the demon powers intercept every prayer they can to interfere with your communication with your God.
    Wake up every day with the hope that your prayer will penetrate today – know that God wants to answer all your prayers, but it is not that simple as we live in the domain which has a prince – the devil. so stay close to Jesus and you will triumph – GUARANTEED. Write a reply – lets talk about this

  42. god has answered my prayers. I feel so much love from him. thank you so much god!

  43. Joe – Here is a christian Dilemma – I have prayed for many many years that i may live without pain – (have had about 5 back operations and been cripple all my life – now it appears that there is a new technology which could relieve me of my pain – after 25 years – would you now say god has answered my prayers?

  44. I’ve been threw too much in my twelve year life time and every day when I get up I say are you shure we aren’t all ready in hell so I ask myself what is my life really depression and pain is that all it will ever be whats the big plan so thanks for lifting my spirit and giving me hope to grasp on too

  45. TO ARIAN – KEEP THE FAITH IN GOD STRONG AND YOUR REDEMPTION IS NEARER THAN DOING IT ALONE. My Hope remains in the Lord, in him i trust to set my life on the right path believing that every step i take id from Him, and that being so, such step have to be in the right direction no matter what that direction is.
    I have never seen prayers answered instantaneously, but i have seen many people who have prayed and glorified God eventually be happy and fulfilled in one way or another – mostly not in the direction which they themselves had hoped for – but when happiness and blessings come your way who really cares the direction from whence they come or the direction in which they have taken us. BUT THEY DO EVENTUALLY COME -at 77 years of age I am about to open a new business having been able to use all of life’s lessons learned to make sure this starts of on the right foot. Praise God for having given me hope every day and still does for finality and inner peace, spiritually, physically(my operation is on Thursday – 3 days from now, and commercially – I will open my business with orders in hand 2 weeks after my operation before the end of this month (March) NO ONE SHOULD THINK OR BELIEVE THAT THERE IS NO FUTURE FOR HIM/HER – THAT IS A KIN TO GIVING IN TO THE DEVIL HIMSELF – HE WANTS YOU MISERABLE AND THINKING NEGATIVELY – Call on the name of Jesus and you will experience the flight of the demons from your life – but blessings are not like instant meals – snap your fingers and whalla – you have a meal – as you believe and begin to see progress your progress will begin to take hold in your life and as you use all the talents god has given you, the better you use these the better you will do.

  46. well, there was a little change yesterday and i felt so happy

  47. Hi Joe,
    Every day is an “Event” if you live it with God/ Jesus as your saviour..
    Knowing Jesus and constantly calling on his name keeps the negatives(demons) out of your life.
    The name of Jesus puts them to flight and when you feel happier know that that is exactly what took place. The knowledge and acceptance that He that is in you is greater than he that is in the world (devil) brings this inner happiness.
    And Joe know that it is a fact… He that is in you is God’s very own Holy Spirit, and he that is in the world is demonic. The good thing is that he (that demonic debacle) is powerless unless he enters a body – so stay away from negative people as they carry the wrong spirit inside of them. stay with people that are obviously happy not because of wealth or some material things, but primarily because they have inner peace.

  48. дона Виды суставов Я конечно, прошу прощения, но, по-моему, есть другой путь решения вопроса

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