It’s so easy to consider giving up when we live with daily pain, to just let the world go by and not face the day. Fiona explains her feelings–and her answer for these moments.
“We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt we had received the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead.” (2 Corinthians 1: 8-9)
Have you ever felt that you just couldn’t take it anymore? Have you ever considered giving up and giving into the pain, to the side effects that go along with the medicines you have to take, to stop doing your physical therapy that helps keep you mobile? Have you been, as Paul was his situation, in such a state that you despaired of life itself?
Those of us who struggle daily with our pain or illness are faced with a choice we must make every day. The choice we must make is how we are going to handle our day. For me, it’s often tempting just to stay in bed and pull the covers back over my head and try to forget life. However, I know that while it sounds like a good way to escape, it’s not really the best for me.
It allows me to lay there and focus on my problems instead of getting up and relying on God to help me get through the day. Feeling sorry for myself just feeds my self-pity and my sense of hopelessness about the future.
While God understands our struggles with the “whys” of our pain and illness, He does not want us to focus on them. What He wants us to focus on is Him. Paul tells us that these things happen to us so that we might not rely upon ourselves (or our medicine, or the next surgical procedure, or the new doctor we’ve found), but on Him.
The problem is He is often the last resort we turn to when we feel like giving up. It’s much easier to take that pain pill or, like me, try to sleep through it all.
God wants us to turn to Him when we feel we cannot endure another moment. He wants us to cry out to Him in our suffering and our discomfort. He desires to be the one that soothes us, that gives us solace, that holds us in His arms and quietly rocks us back and forth. He wants us to learn, deep down, that He is the one we need to rely on.It can be so hard to remember that God really loves us when we’re in the midst of mind-numbing pain or are dealing with another day of not being able to sleep. But, He does love us and He is waiting to show you.
All you need to do is cry out to Him and ask Him to comfort you. He may not take away the pain or the sickness, but I have discovered that He will give you the comfort you need for that moment. And for the next moment. And, also for the next moment.
Prayer: Heavenly Father, I pray that You help me to turn to You when I feel like I just can’t take it anymore and feel like giving up. Help me to see how dwelling in self-pity and the things I think I’m missing out on in life are taking my eyes off of You and Your purpose for my life. Please put Your arms around me and comfort me, again and again. Amen.
About the author:
Fiona Burky is a retired Licensed Clinical Counselor who lives in Ohio. It is only by God’s grace and strength that she has been able to endure her multiple health issues. You may view her blog at: http://fionab-growingbeyondyourpainfulpast.blogspot.com .
What do you do when you feel like giving up? Yell, cry, talk to a friend? Is sharing your pain with Jesus one of the first things you do–or last?
“Our God is Greater” with Chris Tomlin may be a song you recognize. It’s the perfect reminds of God’s power and love when we feel like giving up.