By Debbi Farmer
This was a rough week for me. One of my close friends lost her battle with cancer. Shortly after this, I lost my beloved family pet after having her in my life for fourteen years. My business has been almost non-existent the past few weeks because of the bad economy, and my health has taken a serious turn for the worse lately.
I had so much I needed to say to the family of my friend. I had so much I needed to say to my family for losing their sweet pet. I needed to do more in my business, but my health would not allow it. I felt absolutely lost even knowing in my heart that the Lord was holding me and carrying me through.
When you find yourself needing to convey a message to a friend or family, but you need help with the words, well, this is where this wonderful website comes into play! I want everyone to meet a lovely lady named Nancy Beahm and I hope many will check out her website and find encouragement there for their unique situation.
Nancy offers a wonderful service by providing the words we want to say in a life changing situation to encourage another through her custom specialty greeting cards. The following is a clip or two from her website and more about Nancy and “Prayfully Yours”.
Welcome to “Prayfully Yours”!
We often think that we must go through difficult times alone. But that’s not true. Within God’s word is power and hope. It is the sustaining factor that still applies in life today.
No matter if you live with an illness or face a new life phase; have trouble asking for help or tried for a dream but failed, it all comes under the category of every day life, and no one is exempt.
We don’t have to just survive. By the power of God’s Words and Promise we can overcome anything; making no sorrow or trial ever be in vain.
Make a difference in someone’s life. Help spread the word and let people know that there are “Words of hope when life gets hard.”
~ In Christ, Nancy Beahm
Prayfully Yours is a Christian-owned and operated business
Debbi: Please tell us a little about yourself and what inspired you to start this ministry.
Nancy:My name is Nancy Beahm and I am 55 years old, and celebrated 35 years of marriage this year to my high school sweetheart. Before my illness I had been a dental hygienist, both working in office settings and then teaching.
I then changed directions and found my way into the trucking industry where I spent the remainder of my working career before I started to become ill, which eventually led me to retire.
I accepted Jesus Christ into my life when I was in college, but didn’t fully surrender to Him for another twenty years or so. While I put God back on the shelf I attempted to heal myself of past wounds and mistakes. The more I was told to rely on God, the more I stood defiant and did the exact opposite.
Years of practicing this philosophy got me to suicide mode because I had used myself up. There was no joy, peace, nor laughter. I was empty. I ended up battling with God for my soul.
So it sounds like you were hitting bottom. What happened next?
After a very long and “messy” four days, I decided I couldn’t live my life on empty any more. I rededicated my life to Him, and for the first time in a long, long time, I felt compassion and empathy–pure joy and peace.
Nine months later I became ill and collapsed at home.
A combination of viral encephalitis, fibromyalgia, and arthritis, culminated into lack of brain and body function. For six years and eight months I couldn’t walk without using leg braces and crutches or an electric cart. My speech was so slurred few people could understand me. Reading and thought comprehension were nearly impossible. My body was in such overall agonizing pain I would vomit for days.
Medically there was nothing that could be done except for pain management.
I am so sorry about the suffering you have experienced. But I understand that God did something miraculous?
Yes! About a year before my total healing, I was woken up in the middle of the night because I felt something like “hot darts” piecing through the top of my skull. This happened at three different times throughout the year. In October of the following year, my brother and I were on the phone. During that conversation something incredible happened. To this day I cannot find the words to fully describe the sound of what we heard. It was like the the earth stood still for a second. The silence was deafening.
A week later my speech came back, I could walk and drive and think. I was healed by the power of God (and yes, a doctor has confirmed it!).
That is amazing. So often we are made to feel as though healing is dependent on our actions or how much faith we have. But you admit you aren’t perfect.
My decision to surrender my life to Christ has been one of the most important choices I’ve ever made. Following Jesus doesn’t mean that life hasn’t been hard at times, nor that I am without mistakes or failures. But it does mean that I’ve made a conscious decision to learn about, and to try as best as I am able, to follow His example. When I fail? God has taught me the importance about being brutally honest as I confess my shortcoming and then I start again.
God’s word is true and it is relevant. And when I earnestly seek Him, He heals everything that needs healing.
So, what happened next?
After my healing, I became a hospice volunteer, visiting patients and working with the family members. I became active at church and started to learn to play cello. Today, my husband and I retired to upstate Pennsylvania. I work part-time for a renewable energy/weatherization company, teach high school Sunday school, sing in choir, play cello, and I enjoy speaking to all types of groups.
Wow. Tell us about your ministry.
“Prayfully Yours” is a business that was developed in 2008 and it actually came to be because of the struggle to understand hope. I was such a driven person, but as my body began to fail me, and as I was unable to continue everything else that identified me as me (work, dance, hobbies) I found myself in a state of inability to control anything–and that I was not accustomed to. It seemed like every time I would dare to hope, the outcome of a situation, surgery, or doctor visit would not turn out the way I hoped for. So along with all the physical symptoms that were endured, I found myself getting angrier and more confused about hope. It was throughout this almost seven year journey of having everything I had and was as a person slowly stripped away from me that I eventually began to understand that hope has nothing to do with outcomes of any situation. It is the strength and motivation that gets you from Point A to Point B to Point C, etc.
What is it you most desire that others gain from your web site ministry?
One of the most difficult times during my disability was when I was out in public with people who didn’t know how to interact with me. I truly believe that most people really wanted to say the right thing, but out of either ignorance or fear, they just didn’t. I was always honest with people about what I was or was not capable of doing, but yet, they shied away or never attempted to accommodate my needs so that I could be apart of anything, even if in just a small way.
I cried often because of the hurt.
When I started writing the verses on the “Prayfully Yours” cards, I wanted to be able to give the general public a tool to help them be able to reach out to someone they knew with either a chronic or serious illness. The cards convey the reality of the difficult times, but always end up, hopefully encouraging and uplifting the person who receives it.
I have also tried to design a site where those who are ill and hurting can come and spend some time. Reading the verses, being uplifted, and finding encouragement that there are people out there who know what they are going through. That is just so important that people who are hurting know that there are people who understand and that they do not have to suffer alone. And that they know they can always reach out to someone who has not only been in their shoes, but can also keep the gift of hope for healing alive within them.
What made you chose your business name and how do you come up with some of the ideas for your card titles?
The website name was actually titled because of the “Prayfully Yours” Specialty line. I will write a card for just about any occasion or situation. After collecting information from the customer about the sentiment(s) they would like to convey, I take some time in prayer for God to lead me to write the words to touch the person who is receiving it. It is my intent that God gets all the recognition for any of the messages that are conveyed on a “Prayfully Yours” card.
Almost all of the original card topics came from my own experiences–either before, during, or after my illness. They convey how I felt at the time, and end up with the encouragement that I had wished I had received, but didn’t. I also love to get into conversations with people who are either dealing with illness and/or the caregivers so that I can keep abreast of topics that need to be written about.
Can you share a passage with our readers from one of your designs and let us know what makes them unique?
Definitions change when a person lives with chronic illness.
Getting out of bed every morning isn’t waking up,
Accomplishing the necessary chores of the day isn’t housework,
Needing rest isn’t taking it easy,
Doing this day after day isn’t a routine,
And because you prevail people see . . .
that God’s power is real.
I never liked the label of “survivor.” I truly believe that people diminish not only their strength, courage, and perseverance by using that word, I also believe that God’s healing power gets human confines put onto it. I understand that not everyone will be physically healed, and to this day I can’t even tell you for sure why I was and someone else wasn’t, but I now know that healing takes its shape in all forms; If not physical, then emotional, if not emotional then spiritual–and neither of these types of healing is any less because one may not be physically healed.
I needed to know that then, and didn’t, and my intent is to hopefully bring someone up from hating who they have become because of whatever chronic illness they now live with. People who are ill need to understand that although they may not do what everyone else can, it does not mean they are any less of a living testimony to those around them . . . and they need to be reminded of that.
The cards from “Prayfully Yours” are unique in the sense that they have a very specific niche. With intent, there is very little design and color to them so that the verse is the main thing. And it is also with intent that any major pop of color is on the inside of the card. It accompanies that last line that conveys and reminds people of God’s power and hand upon their lives. For most, these cards can be very intense.
But for those who live with chronic illness understand, that life is intent. I often say, “People either get them or they don’t.” But for those who do, they find such uplifting power in the fact that what they are feeling is actually printed right on a card.
Is there anything you would like our readers to know more about you and your site and/or why you feel your card ministry will help our readers at Rest Ministries?
There’s not too much more to say, except that the purpose of these cards is to pass on the Word of God and to encourage those who need the strength to get through very difficult days. For if I had gone through what I did and could not have found someway, some how to use that time in my life for God’s purpose and good, then my six years and eight months would have been in vain.
I hope those who visit the site, spend time reading all that is there. I hope that they return again and again whenever they find themselves needing a word of encouragement. I hope they lead others who are not ill to the site so that they can read what their loved ones are going through.
And of course, I would love for people to start spreading the Word through a “Prayfully Yours” card so that others can reconnect with their courage, their strength, their hope . . . and above all, God.
Thank you, Nancy. Your words of encouragement are such a blessing today. My prayer is that many will find encouragement from your website and your unique greeting cards.
Part-time writer, Deborah (Debbi) Farmer is also a small business owner, wife and mom, and Christian Soldier, despite living with several chronic illnesses’. Debbi loves to find encouraging websites and “gems in the rough” that she can pass on to others.