Do you struggle with seeing happy photos on social media of happy families with ‘perfect’ lives? How do you keep perspective when chronically ill? Karen shares.
“When times are good, be happy; but when times are bad, consider: God has made the one as well as the other. Therefore, a man cannot discover anything about his future” (Ecclesiastes 7:15).
When I was young, I had hopes, ambitions, career goals, family plans just like everyone else.
I was achieving my career goals. I was proud of what I was accomplishing. Then chronic illness entered the picture.
My life changed.
I was never able to have children. In my mid-30’s, I had to quit working completely. Nothing prepares you for that. I remember after giving my notice to my boss, I went in my office, closed the door, and cried. I couldn’t believe this was happening.
After a couple of years, my health improved enough that I could work part-time, but my career was over. I was lucky to find any job that was in my career field with part-time hours. Not to mention, I didn’t know how long my health would allow me to work at all.
As I spend time on social media, I see my friend’s lives with their jobs, families, and activities. It makes me feel like my life is so inconsequential.
I don’t have all the things my friends seem to have. They have families, little league games, vacations, career honors, active in civic groups, etc.
It’s too easy to compare yourself to others and feel inferior. I often see my contribution to this life as insignificant compared to others. After all, I struggle with daily living tasks. Everyone else’s life seems so much more meaningful than mine.
But that’s where I am wrong. We are all important to God. No one is more important than the next. That is the wonderful thing about being part of the family of God–we are all included in the family.
Never think you are small in this big world. After all, Jesus died for you. He would’ve died for you even if you were the only one. Your life matters.
Prayer: Lord, help me not to doubt my significance in this world. Thank You for loving me so much that You died on a cross. Help me to see my place in this world. Amen.
About the author:
Karen Weber is from the MidWest and lives with her husband. She has been diagnosed with several autoimmune diseases for over 20 years. She has led a support group and has taught classes for the community on “Living Well with Chronic Illness.”
Do you struggle thinking everyone else has a better life when you are on social media? Do you ever feel like your life has no bearing in this world?
This song, “The Real Me” is with Natalie Grant and it has some great lyrics about how we can only be who God has designed us to be. When we look around it may seem like everyone is happy and blessed but us, but there are many fake smiles plastered on and everyone needs a prayer. -Lisa