Overnight guests can be especially challenging to a chronically ill host. Karen shares and we’d love to hear your tips on setting boundaries.
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling” (1 Peter 4:8,9).
We have an extra room in our house with a guest bed. Sometimes this appears to family members as a big motel sign flashing “VACANCY.” They think that because this room exists, it’s an open invitation to stay at our house when they come to town.
For most people, having a guest is a small inconvenience. For me, it is a tremendous effort.
The extra cleaning requires energy I don’t have. I struggle physically just to keep up with the house cleaning on a regular basis.
The process of preparing for company is very stressful. For example, there is seeing that every room is presentable, shopping for easy-to-prepare meals, and having to hide all the junk that has no proper place of its own.
I want everything to be perfect when someone steps inside my home. Perfection is a dream not a reality.
While they are a guest at my “inn” there is the art of entertaining. When you have a chronic illness even having to sit and talk with people is exhausting. It’s the feeling that you always have to be “on” (appearing happy and feeling good) that can be tiring.
I definitely do not have the gift of hospitality. Every step of having house guests for me is physically difficult. If I had a flashing motel sign outside my house, I would have it flashing “NO VACANCY: No Room at the Inn” permanently.
We all have challenges to face and God gives us learning moments through them all. When things are difficult for us, there is usually something He wants us to learn from the situation. And as always, we can learn to put more of our trust in Him.
Prayer: Lord, help me to show others the love and patience that you have shown me. Help me to be hospitable to all those who enter my home. Help me to trust you with every difficult task. Amen.
About the author:
Karen Weber is from the MidWest and lives with her husband. She has been diagnosed with several autoimmune diseases for over 20 years. She has led a support group and has taught classes for the community on “Living Well with Chronic Illness.”
Do you ever find hosting guests to be physically difficult? Do you have any tips to help others with chronic illness deal with hosting in their homes?
This is Jars of Clay singing “Show You Love.” There are times when we can speak honestly with someone about our limits. It is always good to do your best to advocate for your health. But when we decided to just not say anything, we cannot resent the person for not understanding our limits. That is why I chose this song. We can so love showing others love and that is why we may choose to stretch ourselves and have guests–it’s hard, but we just don’t want to give it up yet. Hope this song bless you today. -Lisa