Why Am I Overreacting About Every Little Thing?

IS YOUR ILLNESS AND PAIN LEVEL MAKING YOU REACT AT EVERY LITTLE THING?? you aren't alone! It's natural for us to lash out when we aren't feeling well, or burst into tears at the smallest thing. But we can find ways to get our feeling under a bit more control so we don't destroy the relationships we have with those around us.

Are you over-reacting to little things and see it slowly break down your relationships, your joy-factor? Diane shares how she dealt with this. “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” (Psalm 139:23-24) When I find myself over-reacting to the little things in life; is it because I’m not interacting with the Father? I know that often as individuals that deal with chronic illness we may not always feel upbeat, or have a pleasant smile on our face. There may be times we are even quite grumpy! (At least it happens in my case!) Those times are usually when I am in the most severe pain or symptoms of my illness. Until … [Read more...]

How Do You Cope When People Talk Trash or Treasure About How You Are Coping?

WHAT KIND OF WORDS ARE COMING FROM YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT YOU-- TRASH OR TREASURE? It is so painful when we are doing our best to survive illness and people call us lazy, unmotivated, needing attention, etc. What do you tell YOURSELF about God's truth when people speak negatively about you? #devotional

People talk trash or treasure. What message do you tell yourself when people say things about you that are closer to trash? Our new writer, Pastor Wells, shares his thoughts. "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." (Ephesians 4:29) People in this world love to talk. This can be done in today's world in an endless number of ways which include text messaging, video chat, and the traditional gathering or phone call. Recently, moving a thousand miles away from my family, video chat has been a way that I communicate with them a majority of the time. It was quite funny watching my father react to how this worked … [Read more...]

How Much Should You Reveal About Your Loved Ones When You Write?

HOW MUCH SHOULD YOU REVEAL ABOUT FRIENDS OR FAMILY WHEN YOU BLOG? @Lisa Copen shares some of the things she tries to remember when telling a story online or in public that involves someone else. Can you be honest without hurting one's feelings? This article also has scriptures that back up her viewpoints and help explain what we are accountable. Great article for #writers. #NHBPM @wego health

How do you decide exactly what to reveal about your loved ones, friends or family, when you write about your own experiences online? WEGO Health asks for their daily writing challenge “How do you choose to write about others in your blog?" Day #8. Lisa Copen I have asked this question, "How much should you reveal?" in past years to my writers groups. I have wondered, "How did you decide what to reveal, when, and why?" I read books of my writers friends where they share horror stories about a parent, a sibling, motherhood, and I think, "What did your mom think when she read that??" When we write, we often cling to our own experiences. And as writers, we do not just live--we are aware of the little slivers of life. We may think … [Read more...]

You Can Depend on Me–Usually

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Can people depend on you? When they question their dependence --and your feelings are hurt-- is it your problem. . . or theirs? By Lisa Copen "Are you coming?" I am asked. I had called earlier in the week to see if the event was on for Saturday evening--merely hours away now. But days had passed since my call. I didn't know if it was happening or not. And I hate not knowing. I call again Saturday by 9:30 AM, leave a message. But things need done. Grocery shopping, couponing, cleaning the fridge. Weeks of extra pain have resulted in procrastination. I haven't been to the grocery store in weeks. Stuff . . . needs. . . done. "I have to know," I tell my husband. "Now. I have to pace myself if we are going." As we both are scrubbing … [Read more...]

Responding With Grace To Those Who Offer New Cures

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When someone with good intentions presents the latest new cures for your illness, how do you respond with grace and not resentment? Michele shares. “Listen to advice and accept discipline, and at the end you will be counted among the wise. Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.” (Proverbs 19:20-21) Almost daily I receive messages from someone who suggests I try something that has helped them. Knowing they are well meaning, I appreciate all the suggestions; although I feel that they do not understand my chronic illnesses; for what may help one, does not mean it will help me too. Even when I’ve tried the latest “fad” or treatment, months later my body becomes immune to the … [Read more...]

Just As Long as You Stand By Me – Video

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Happy Sunday! It is so easy to get caught up in our own little world, even the news about the city we live in or our country, and forget that we are all God's children, scattered all over the world. We all hurt, we all need the Lord, and. . . we need each other too. This is a beautiful video that will remind you that there are people world-wide that are saying, "Just as long as you stand by me than I can _____." (Imagine, what could you do if someone promised to stand by you?) Be sure to listen past the 1-minute mark for more surprises. If you are receiving this in your email, you likely cannot see the video within the email. Click the title above to go to our website to watch it. Stand By Me - People of the World Playing for … [Read more...]

God Sees Me Even When I Feel Like a Number

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God sees you, God sees me, even when we feel like a number to everyone around us. There is compassion in simply asking someone, "What is your name? "Jesus asked him, 'What is your name?'" (Luke 8:30) Last week I ate dinner with my husband and son at a little outdoor fishette. My husband ordered while my son and I found a table and he told me that he had just seen a woman outside on the sidewalk with a sign that said homeless. . . and she was in a wheelchair. "Mom," he explained, "she is homeless and in a wheelchair. Wouldn't that be worser?" It would be, I said. As we ate we decided when we left we would go say hello and give her some money. I walked up to her and introduced us and said how my son had noticed her. I said, "I have … [Read more...]

Devotion: When You Cannot Meet Everyone’s Expectations of You

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"When she saw her hope unfulfilled, her expectation gone, she took another of her cubs and made him a strong lion." (Ezekiel 19:5) In the expectations game everyone loses when it comes to living with an illness. We can become discouraged and depressed when we find our hopes dashed, when we have a few "good days" and expect them to last, only to be knocked flat again by affliction a short time later. Expectations can create all sorts of problems between spouses and friends and family. We say we will do something, or make plans ahead of time to go to some event, only to have our hopes dashed and the injury multiplied by disappointing those close to us. And the situation is not improved by those who have little understanding or … [Read more...]

How to Handle Hurt Feelings In Health Social Networks

HOW TO HANDLE HURT FEELINGS IN HEALTH SOCIAL NETWORKS: Health social networks can be a tremendous support for the chronically ill, but they can also be a source of many hurt feelings. How do we prevent this? If you have ever been on a health social network, chances are you have had your feeling hurt. It comes with the territory of people being in pain, on and off new meds, lacking sleep and short fuses. Great article if you have a #invisibleillness

Health social networks can be a tremendous support for the chronically ill, but they can also be a source of many hurt feelings. How do we prevent this? By Lisa Copen The Internet has provided us with a support community environment of online health social networks that are unique and always available. In the illness community, it is no surprise how helpful it can be when you are awake at 3 AM and there is someone online who is also awake due to pain. However, with this easily accessible health social networks of people also comes the frustrations that typically occur with our in-person relationships. Add to this, the fact that many people are not feeling well and may be moody, in addition to the likelihood that people are much more … [Read more...]

Are You Being Too Nice? Not Uncommon for Chronically Ill

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Are you too nice? Is there such a thing for Christians? How can we be kind, but also please God, not be people pleasers? By Leslie Vernick Do you ever find yourself saying "yes" when you want to (or should) say "no"? For example, several years back, a graduate student asked me if I thought she would make a good counselor. I knew her gifts weren't strongest in that area, but I didn't want to hurt her feelings. She left our conversation believing I thought she was capable. We all do it. We say "yes" when our honest response should be "no." But let's take a look at the cost of being too nice. By being too nice, we can hurt people It amazes me how unaware we are of how we injure people by being too nice. Isn't that why we're nice to … [Read more...]

What I’d Like to Tell The Pastor About Living with Illness

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If you had the opportunity to sit down and really share about your pain, what would you tell the pastor of your church about your chronic illness and daily pain? Lisa Copen Living with chronic illness is lonely. Everyone around us seems to be enjoying health, happiness, and the ability to at least pursue their dreams. But many of us feel lonely, scared, and disappointed. We are faced with so many insecurities and we are living with an illness that we have not been able to pray away, cry away, or confess away. So we turn to our church for guidance, for acceptance, for unconditional support during the most difficult time in our life. But churches are made up of people—all of us imperfect. And our church does not always give us … [Read more...]

4 Steps to Take to Get Rid of Resentment You May Hold Against Others

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Resentment does not give us any benefits, yet many of us still hold onto it. Even if we may not want to feel resentful, we aren't sure how to get rid of it. Leslie explains. By Leslie Vernick When someone hurts us, is foolish, or sins against us, the consequences of their behaviors often impact us more than the other person. Anger, bitterness and resentment can be the result. Even when someone hasn't intentionally inflicted harm, these negative emotions creep into our spirits and are hard to get rid of. Here are 4 things you can do if you find yourself stuck in resentment. 1. Ask yourself what purpose do these negative emotions serve? Is it payback? Is it an attitude of I get to be right? Or, is it that you haven't been able … [Read more...]