4 Steps to Take to Get Rid of Resentment You May Hold Against Others

4 STEPS TO GET RID OF RESENTMENT:

Resentment does not give us any benefits, yet many of us still hold onto it. Even if we may not want to feel resentful, we aren't sure how to get rid of it. Leslie explains. By Leslie Vernick When someone hurts us, is foolish, or sins against us, the consequences of their behaviors often impact us more than the other person. Anger, bitterness and resentment can be the result. Even when someone hasn't intentionally inflicted harm, these negative emotions creep into our spirits and are hard to get rid of. Here are 4 things you can do if you find yourself stuck in resentment. 1. Ask yourself what purpose do these negative emotions serve? Is it payback? Is it an attitude of I get to be right? Or, is it that you haven't been able … [Read more...]

When Friends Don’t Understand Your Invisible Illness: 4 Things to Do

WHEN FRIENDS DONT UNDERSTAND YOUR INVISIBLE ILLNESS: What do you do when people just don't get it? or may not BELIEVE you are really ill? Sometimes it feels like if we let these kind of friends go, no one will be left. I like how this article tells you not to just dismiss everyone, but also explains how to not get hurt over and over. Excellent.

When we are ill, it seems like friends don't understand all the "stuff" that we deal with daily. But does that mean you let these friends fade away whenever they don't quite understand? No. But you cannot keep setting yourself up for pain either. By Lisa Copen If you live with an invisible illness, you may find the emotions of coping with people's doubts about your disease may be harder to manage than the disease itself. Most of us with a chronic illness must eventually accept our condition. In order to live our best life, we need to educate ourselves about the disease and make well-researched decisions about treatment. Those with illness, however, have no ability to make others except the illness or even acknowledge it. When our … [Read more...]

Can I Be Mad at God About My Illness? 3 Ways to Know

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"When I was first diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, I was relieved at first," shares Cindy. "So many doctors kept telling me to see a psychiatrist, but I knew it was my body, not my head, that was in trouble." She explains, "I had spent so much time before my diagnosis being mad, having my illness finally validated was a great feeling. But six months later, the anger set in the pain management of the illness seemed to barely exist." Many people are familiar with the book "On Death and Dying," written by a well-known doctor in Switzerland, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. The book explains how people deal with any kind of loss, but especially that which they face when coping with an illness. It includes a description of the cycle of … [Read more...]