How do you get through the holidays when you feel like God– who was always been faithful– has let you down & allowed you to suffer a tragedy you never imagined?
This is what Janet Chismar asked Christian musician Steven Curtis Chapman these year to share about at the web site for Billy Graham Evangelistic Association.
Maria, one of his adopted daughters from China, was tragically killed in a car accident on Chapman’s own property in 2008. He shares the following (below), & we encourage you to visit the BGEA web site to watch the four-minute video where Chapman pours out his heart about what God has revealed to him through this tragedy as well as the questions he still asks himself, & the Lord, daily.
I asked Chapman if he had any words to comfort those who are grieving this Christmas season, or if he had insights on how we can best help the hurting.
“The one thing my wife & I have learned,” he responded, “is that the most encouraging words we heard were the antithesis of anything profound. It was when someone would say, ‘There are no words for this. There is nothing that any of us can say.’”
Chapman feels that such a seemingly simple statement somehow honors the depth of grief. “The worst thing people can do is to throw words at pain. It’s like dropping a few drops into the ocean to help fill it up. It’s so vast. Grief & loss are so unique – the shape of that in a person’s soul – is so unique that only God can meet it.”